Loving someone who doesn't love you back

How do people get through it? When you want to be with someone that hardly gives you the time of day... it just hurts so bad. I've been trying for 3 years to get over this one rejection, and the pain just keeps coming back.Loving someone who doesn't love you back
Why would you want to love someone who don't loves you back? It's beyond me.Loving someone who doesn't love you back
Thats not love.
Elizabeth...*sigh* :(
[QUOTE=''jointed'']Why would you want to love someone who don't loves you back? It's beyond me.[/QUOTE]

I know, but it's hard to be rational about these sorts of things.
You don't get through it you get over it, or on it, or under it, or in it... only with someone else until you realise it was infatuation, not love. Rinse and repeat.
That really cannot be called ''love.'' You may feel a strong attraction to another person and even care about them but if they ''hardly give you the time of day,'' chances are what you are feeling is more akin to an attachment than it is deep-rooted affection.

The best way to get over rejection is to avoid dwelling on ''what could have been.''

That's not love, it's obession or something along the lines
[QUOTE=''foxhound_fox'']That really cannot be called ''love.'' You may feel a strong attraction to another person and even care about them but if they ''hardly give you the time of day,'' chances are what you are feeling is more akin to an attachment than it is deep-rooted affection.

The best way to get over rejection is to avoid dwelling on ''what could have been.''
[/QUOTE] It's still love. Why does love have to be mutual? You can still love someone that doesn't love you back.
[QUOTE=''Yodas_Boy''][QUOTE=''foxhound_fox'']That really cannot be called ''love.'' You may feel a strong attraction to another person and even care about them but if they ''hardly give you the time of day,'' chances are what you are feeling is more akin to an attachment than it is deep-rooted affection.

The best way to get over rejection is to avoid dwelling on ''what could have been.''
[/QUOTE] It's still love. Why does love have to be mutual? You can still love someone that doesn't love you back.[/QUOTE]No its not love, its obsessive.
[QUOTE=''Yodas_Boy'']It's still love. Why does love have to be mutual? You can still love someone that doesn't love you back.[/QUOTE]Hm. I've kind of wondered this myself for some times. I think in order to love someone though, you need to get some in return, otherwise it's just admiration. To love someone you need to see their soul, and you can't get that from the waitress at the local cafe who doesn't even know your name.
[QUOTE=''Yodas_Boy'']It's still love. Why does love have to be mutual? You can still love someone that doesn't love you back.[/QUOTE]
If someone is barely able to give you the time of day, you really are not ''in love'' with them. It is most likely infatuation. Love comes from getting to know a person very well and appreciating them for all they are worth... and not just from afar.

Do you even know this person you are ''in love'' with personally?

[QUOTE=''foxhound_fox''][QUOTE=''Yodas_Boy'']It's still love. Why does love have to be mutual? You can still love someone that doesn't love you back.[/QUOTE]
If someone is barely able to give you the time of day, you really are not ''in love'' with them. It is most likely infatuation. Love comes from getting to know a person very well and appreciating them for all they are worth... and not just from afar.

Do you even know this person you are ''in love'' with personally?
[/QUOTE] Of course I do. We've been friends for the last three years.
I suppose I should clarify. By ''wouldn't give me the time of day,'' I don't mean that she doesn't care about me at all, we are still friends. What I meant by that is that relationship-wise she doesn't feel even remotely the same as I do.
[QUOTE=''Yodas_Boy'']Of course I do. We've been friends for the last three years.[/QUOTE]
How close are you? Not being able to ''get the time of day'' from her doesn't exactly suggest very much at all.
[QUOTE=''foxhound_fox''][QUOTE=''Yodas_Boy'']Of course I do. We've been friends for the last three years.[/QUOTE]
How close are you? Not being able to ''get the time of day'' from her doesn't exactly suggest very much at all.[/QUOTE] (read my previous clarification)
I've been there.. 1 thing just walk away and try love someone else or you'll end up hurting and hating this person..
[QUOTE=''Yodas_Boy'']I suppose I should clarify. By ''wouldn't give me the time of day,'' I don't mean that she doesn't care about me at all, we are still friends. What I meant by that is that relationship-wise she doesn't feel even remotely the same as I do.[/QUOTE]Okay, well, if you refer to my second post you might get an idea (sans the Cafe Waitress part). Essentially, you have to be ''let in'' (emotionally/romanticaly) before you can be ''in'' love.
[QUOTE=''Yodas_Boy'']I suppose I should clarify. By ''wouldn't give me the time of day,'' I don't mean that she doesn't care about me at all, we are still friends. What I meant by that is that relationship-wise she doesn't feel even remotely the same as I do.[/QUOTE]
Then you have to move on. Just approaching her with your feelings could have ruined the friendship. If she still values you as a friend feel lucky you still have that. If she is not interested in pursuing romance with you, it would be best to respect her decision. If you truly do ''love'' her, you will understand and respect her feelings and let her go.

Branch out and find other people. Focusing your romantic interests on one person while still remaining single is not the healthiest of ventures. Believe me, I spent most of my social development taking that approach.
I appreciate the advice, and I've heard it before...it's just not easy to actually ''do'' it.